I’m Ok, So Very Ok
You Wouldn’t (and Shouldn’t) Believe it
When I was a little girl I had a habit of jumping
up quickly if ever I fell. Even if my knees were bleeding and hurting I’d jump up and say, a little too hysterically to be convincing, “I’m Ok, I’m Ok”.”
My mum tells me that she just wished I would cry and let my hurt out so that
she could help me. This is a protective default that I can still very occasionally contract back into although thankfully less and less often. I have learnt to understand my emotions let them have some breathing space and move on with my self esteem intact.
The kinds of bumps and bruises that adults face are kind of different from physically falling over – things like health worries, confidence at work issues or insomnia problems – but none the less we often adopt the same strategies we did as a child. As children we often felt shame so we hid our feelings from our friends or adults –and ultimately ourselves – lest others thought we were stupid or not good enough in some way. As adults the pressure on us to demonstrate superhuman levels of coping and competence can be even greater so we keep on pretending. Vulnerability is feels like a dirty word.
As Brene Brown said about herself:
“I spent a lot of years trying to outrun or outsmart vulnerability by making things certain and definite, black and white, good and bad. My inability to lean into the discomfort of vulnerability limited the fullness of those important experiences that are wrought with uncertainty: Love, belonging, trust, joy and creativity to name a few.”
All human beings seek to be accepted by our tribe, our peers. Whether our tribe are other mums, lawyers, academics, Dr’s, family members or friends. However first and foremost we first have to accept ourselves. That means facing up to what’s not working.
If you are someone who is living with a self-sabotaging habit, struggling with a confidence issue or perhaps feeling in a corner because of stress, anxiety or lack of sleep hypnosis can help you.
You can understanding yourself better, see inspiring solutions in the place of your problems, use your emotions to point the way forward, let go of old hurts and get your feet firmly planted on the road to health and vitality.
If you are living in a trance of pretending to be ok I would love to help you create a much better trance. In other words: Stop Pretending and Start Living.
You might like to download my FREE Seven Step Self Help guide which will give you a flavour of how I can help you…. Do you need to practice being a bit more S.E.L.F.I.S.H.?